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ARTICLESThe Book that you are not Writing Three reasons why women experts dread writing that book.
By Maria Mar© |
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SummaryDo you want to write your expert book to leap into another level of expert recognition, but keep putting it off? Author and book writing coach Maria Mar reflects on the hidden reasons why women procrastinate writing that special book, and finds the wisdom beneath your fear. Read article.
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There are many books published every day, but only a fraction of these books generates a genuine reaction from audiences.
While marketing is a key factor, and having a platform for your book is essential, it is an error to believe that those are the only or the principal factors for the success of a book.
All things being equal ~once publicity and marketing are taken care of~ the success factor of a book lies where it should: substance and quality. To win the heart of your readers your book must fulfill two tasks:
Are you cringing right now? Are you muttering between your teeth something like "Yeah, right. That's a piece of cake!" followed by "Why, then, do I feel that I can't possibly do it?"
The Ugly DucklingI've lost count of how many brilliant, capable, experienced women meet me for the first time with a confident facade that cracks the minute we talk about that book. You know the book I'm talking about, that exceptional book that carries your Essence and Presence into the world. That first book that will catapult you into a higher level of recognition, finances and credibility.
Beneath the Majestic Swan I see when I first meet these women, there is a tiny Ugly Duckling eating away their self-esteem. The duckling eats so much and so fast that it is biting off the stature of that beautiful Swan. The tragedy is that the Swan is the True Self. The Swan is the women's Essence, but also the hard-won knowledge and expertise she has cultivated. After all, a swan’s flight does not happen overnight.
In my FlightDreamä System, I help women study the fairy tales that illustrate the most common Self-sabotage MOs trapping them out of their Dreams. The Ugly Duckling is right there among the top 6. To understand the powerful pull of the Ugly Duckling in your psyche, you need to understand the Emotional Undertow.
The feelings, False Beliefs, traumas and Learned Limits of Perception you absorbed during your Domestication Trance (also known as socialization), are attached to survival mode and to emotions embedded with life an death intensity. The undigested emotions you carry from that formative past accumulate into a muddy, thick emotional swamp slowly churning at the deepest layer of your psyche. This Emotional Undertow pulls you back and under. It does not allow you to get to the shores of your Dream, of your potential. The Ugly Duckling is still swimming in that emotional swamp. In its perception, it's not possible to fly, and it is right, but only because it is swimming in the reality fabricated by your past.
In other words, behind each great woman, there is an Ugly Duckling quacking away: "I'm not enough. This is not enough. Who do you think you are? They are going to laugh at us. You are not an expert! Stop pretending!"
If you recognize this scenario, I teach a simple Power Walk, a posture practice to transmute the unconscious emotional patterns of the Ugly Duckling into a place of power that allows you to go for your Dreams without doubts.
The Time Trap"But my problem is objective!" you squeak, even though you are no longer quacking. "I have no time."
If you are a woman, you know that this is no lie. What time can a woman possibly have left after taking care of the children, the parents, the husband, the laundry and the job? And that's just for starters!
I will tell you what I say to women, and I am imagining your face. Eyeballs rolling up, an impatient moue on your face. Still, hear me out.
"Time is an illusion. Time does not exist. Time can be stretched, stopped and bent."
"Ja! It's easy for you to say!" You respond. "You don't have kids, DO you?"
I am not talking about a complicated metaphysical concept. Remember how time stopped in your childhood when you climbed on a tree and gazed at the clouds?
"That was then. This is now," you say. Rightly so. Remember how time stretches when you are praying in deep meditation? Remember how it shortens when you are having fun?
Time is like the fish in Christ's miracle, when he multiplied the fish to feed a crowd. You, too make time miracles. You do it all the time. The problem is not time. The problem is priority.
That to which you give priority gets done. That to which you do not give priority, stays on that never-ending list you keep on the back of your head, growing every day, accumulating stress and guilt.
Today I choose to write this article and NOT do the laundry. I choose this because I am giving it priority. I am giving it priority because I want to upload these new pages, use my articles to attract traffic, serve the women seeking help, and gain some new clients.
I will do the laundry another day, and I will feel no guilt. I have destroyed my to-do list. I have stopped feeding my guilt and I feed my Dream instead.
A man will not hesitate. The second alternative makes more sense. But a man has not been domesticated to do the laundry!
Your guilt, not time, is your enemy. Your inability to delegate. Your need to do it all. Your belief that you must serve everyone in your life and take care of everything and then, if there is any time left, you may drop down to rest for a few hours; there lies your enemy! Of course that there is no time for you or your Dream in this nightmare you have inherited.
Wake up from that Dream from Hell, as the Toltec masters call the Domestication Trance. Wake up. Make time for yourself and your Dream, and let the laundry wait or get it done by someone else! In my coaching programs, I help women schedule time for writing their books in ways that feel right, but get the work done.
Fear of DivingSo you've healed the Ugly Duckling. You have assumed your expertise and feel confident.
You are no longer running circles around yourself. You've prioritized your book, and you've set up a weekly time to write.
Well, what's stopping you?
"The blank page!" You bark in frustration.
The blank page invites you to dive, and you are afraid. In fact, you are terrified. Your mind and your imagination are blocked. Your pen is paralyzed.
As a woman, you know intuitively that the book you must write is not just another product. It is the expression of who you are and what you offer the world. It must be a book with a heart. (For more about this, read my article Your Expert Book is your Ambassador.)
Writing such a book demands that you dive into your unconscious, listen to your Soul and bring its silent song to the surface.
Business experts like to say that you should write a book as if you were talking to the reader. I disagree. You should write a book as if you were dancing in the heart of the reader. A talk is quickly forgotten. A shared dance, a whisper to the soul, is not.
Writing a book with a heart is not an easy process. Many good books are never written because this process demands emotional courage and self-intimacy as the starting point.
If you as an author are not an experienced underwater treasure hunter, you will naturally avoid diving. You simply don't know how to dive into the deep waters of your Emotional Undertow and come up swimming quickly, with the treasure in your hands.
If you summon all your courage and take a deep dive into your psyche, you may feel that you are drowning. You scramble back up, swimming desperately away. You just miss the underground jewel: that surprising insight that could have made the book stand out.
This journey into the depth of your psyche is the realm of shamans. As a shaman, I can tell you that it is a tricky plunge.
As a way of avoidance, you get distracted and stop writing for months. You wake up a year later, your book gathering cobwebs at the bottom of the drawer, beneath the countless daily tasks your business demands. You try again, and again find it hard to stay at the bottom long enough while juggling your daily tasks.
If you identify with this scenario, you may need to get a book writing coach who can help you write a book with a heart, AND can support you emotionally as you write it. You may want to check my life coaching program: Book Writing for Exceptional Expertsä.
Your book is often the process by which you clean your Emotional Undertow. You dive, bring out the treasures and release the toxic emotions that no longer serve you. As you write, not only do you have fun and gain confidence. You free yourself from the invisible weight and destructive pull of the Emotional Undertow. The more you write, the more you clean your Emotional Undertow. The cleaner it is, the more energy you have available to write. Ultimately, writing enables you to fly free into your Dream!
What happens once the Emotional Undertow is drained or minimized? That depth in your psyche is no longer toxic. It becomes the magical spring of your Muse!
I can write an ebook in a day. I just wrote a 400-page self-help novel in 6 months, including the workbook! I write in a state of grace.
When your Authentic Voice emerges from that spring and bursts onto the page, it surprises even you. It flows from a well deep within your Soul. It has beauty, wisdom, humor and passion you never knew you had!
ConclusionIs anything worth this much trouble?
Most definitely yes.
Your book is the road to your Dream. It is also the road to yourself. When you start that expert book you are facing your dream, but stand apart from it. You see it from afar. Your expert book is the bridge that crosses you to the other side. When you finish that book, when it is read by the first reader, you stand at the other side, in the shoes of your Wise Woman. You have become your Dream. From there on, the sky's the limit!
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Maria Mar(c) The Dream Alchemist
Maria Mar is known as the Dream Alchemist for the power of her writing and her art to help women stay true to their dreams and potential. She is living evidence that you can realize all your potential. A true renaissance woman, she is a PBS-featured performer, published author, poet, shaman, visual artist, life coach, book-writing coach, speaker, storyteller and spiritual teacher. If you want Maria to help you release the obstacles to your dream, visit www.catchthedreamexpress.com. For help writing to heal, to transform your life or to achieve success in your field, visit: http://www.writetodream.com. Meet Maria and enjoy the advice of experts and writers' at Write to Dream Radio Show.
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Think clearly, on mathematical terms. You are doing something that will
generate several clients in the next weeks. They will pay thousands of
dollars in services for the next six months. What is more cost-effective, to
do the laundry and miss those clients, or to pay a service to do the laundry
and use your time to generate your prosperity? 
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